Christmas Gift

I love the concept of being the change you want to see in your children. It really helps to focus on our own attitudes and responses – which we are actually able to change. So, when it comes to bringing up children who have a heart attitude that demonstrates love, I must first examine my attitudes and outworking of that.

I want them [our children] to see us giving because we have a lot to be grateful for and we value peoples contribution to our lives

One of my love languages is gift giving. I like to give people meaningful gifts. With a young family and not a lot of spare cash this has left me feeling divided this Christmas. It would be so easy to decide not to give gifts. However, when I reflect on what I want my children to see, I want them to see us giving because we have a lot to be grateful for and we value peoples contribution to our lives. I also believe that Christmas is about giving. Yet, I don’t want to go into debt, nor do I want to give people meaningless gifts because I feel obligated. How easy is it to feel obligated to get someone a gift because they give you one, or because you expect you will receive a gift? Instead, we should be able to give without any expectation of receiving. Not as a reward to good behavior, or with the expectation that the recipient must like and use it.

…at a time when people can feel isolated and overwhelmed we can demonstrate, through giving, that they are known and not alone!

The Dignity of being known came up in my news feed recently. I encourgage you to click through and read it. In part it talks about how we can show people we know them through giving them meaningful gifts. How awesome is that, at a time when people can feel isolated and overwhelmed we can demonstrate, through giving, that they are known and not alone! Yet in contrary, how isolating can obligated gift giving be.

I hope to demonstrate to my children that we can give authentic obligation free gifts

So this Christmas I hope to demonstrate to my children that we can give authentic obligation free gifts. Those gifts, they don’t even have to be things, they can be time listening to someone who needs to be listened to. They don’t even have to be on time – especially if money is tight and we don’t want to go into debt, sometimes they will come after the 25th of December. Sometimes, they don’t have to be given just because of a day.

As a parent we can demonstrate to our children that we know them and that we want to know them through simple acts of giving

Everyday we have opportunities to show people we know them and they are not alone. With a toddler it can be as simple as washing her favorite dress so it is clean when she asks for it the next day – because I know she will want to wear it. As a parent we can demonstrate to our children that we know them and that we want to know them through simple acts of giving. That we want to build a relationship and disciple them (the base word of discipline). The fundamental of that is knowing them.

When we write our list of people we want to get gifts for and struggle to come up with a gift for someone on that list, this year we can use that as a reminder to get to know them better.

Lets focus on Christmas again. When we write our list of people we want to get gifts for and struggle to come up with a gift for someone on that list, this year we can use that as a reminder to get to know them better. So that at Christmas time next year, we know that person well enough to get them a gift that says I know you, you are not alone.

gifts

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *