I have taken a break for the last few weeks to welcome in the New Year and relax and refocus. I have in part neglected my blogging. However, I am back. There have been many things I have been thinking about over the last few weeks, but one of the biggest things has been the idea of having everything I need. How is it when we feel we cannot pay bills or factor food shopping in for meals that we can believe we have everything we need? We have small children, so not having a lot of money is standard.
So those moments of feeling like we did not have enough, did not have everything we needed, helped to magnify and focus on the moments when those needs were actually provided
Yet, the great irony of the situation was that on the week we were suppose to have no food I had mangoes and fresh berries for breakfast. The day my shoes fell apart, I was able to get new shoes. The month I did a wardrobe stock take and felt I did not have enough clothes, I soon had enough clothes. So those moments of feeling like we did not have enough, did not have everything we needed, helped to magnify and focus on the moments when those needs were actually provided. On an even bigger level, we sometimes get provided with things we don’t even need, things we want. In hindsight we see our family provided for in many ways and so moving forward we need to keep that perspective so as to not worry and fear.
It can be so easy to focus on the things we need… this so often means that we can loose a perspective of gratitude in those moments
It can be so easy to focus on the things we need, especially when those needs are things like bills to be paid and food to eat or houses to live in. Yet, this so often means that we can loose a perspective of gratitude in those moments. There is always something to be thankful for. You can always read Glennon’s post Give me Gratitude or Give me Debt if you don’t believe me. It also does not mean we can’t do house renovations, but does mean we should do it from a place of Gratitude. Which again reminds me how behavior is never the best judge of heart. Because the behavior and outcome can so often look the same even when the heart attitude may be so very different to someone else.
If I can afford to have a dirty shirt missing, and still be wearing clothes, then I really do have clothing
When I went through my wardrobe, it was so easy to see how little I had, how everyone else in the family had more. To feel undervalued as a result, feel like I did not have everything I needed. Yet, when I stepped back and put things into perspective, there was a dirty shirt on the floor that had been mislaid. If I can afford to have a dirty shirt missing, and still be wearing clothes, then I really do have clothing. I want more than a few outfits, but I don’t necessarily need more than a few. Then I was able to get a few more and now I have lots.
When we have what we need before we need it, sometimes we miss the opportunity to be grateful for it
So I think that not having is sometimes a good thing, because it really does help us to be thankful and focus on the times when things are provided for us even if we don’t believe it will happen. When we have what we need before we need it, sometimes we miss the opportunity to be grateful for it. While sometimes things come together at the very very last minute and a lot later than I really would have liked it to happen, it still happens. If we are focused on being grateful there is not a lot of room to focus on being worried and fearful.
I have everything I need
So despite the moments, when I feel like we are not going to make it through a tough time, I do believe I have everything I need, not just in terms of things but also skills. So no matter what the circumstance, I can be confident and remember what I do have and what has been provided for me. So this year, I am trying to remember I have everything I need.