Having

I have taken a break for the last few weeks to welcome in the New Year and relax and refocus. I have in part neglected my blogging. However, I am back. There have been many things I have been thinking about over the last few weeks, but one of the biggest things has been the idea of having everything I need. How is it when we feel we cannot pay bills or factor food shopping in for meals that we can believe we have everything we need? We have small children, so not having a lot of money is standard.

So those moments of feeling like we did not have enough, did not have everything we needed, helped to magnify and focus on the moments when those needs were actually provided

Yet, the great irony of the situation was that on the week we were suppose to have no food I had mangoes and fresh berries for breakfast. The day my shoes fell apart, I was able to get new shoes. The month I did a wardrobe stock take and felt I did not have enough clothes, I soon had enough clothes. So those moments of feeling like we did not have enough, did not have everything we needed, helped to magnify and focus on the moments when those needs were actually provided. On an even bigger level, we sometimes get provided with things we don’t even need, things we want. In hindsight we see our family provided for in many ways and so moving forward we need to keep that perspective so as to not worry and fear.

It can be so easy to focus on the things we need… this so often means that we can loose a perspective of gratitude in those moments

It can be so easy to focus on the things we need, especially when those needs are things like bills to be paid and food to eat or houses to live in. Yet, this so often means that we can loose a perspective of gratitude in those moments. There is always something to be thankful for. You can always read Glennon’s post Give me Gratitude or Give me Debt if you don’t believe me. It also does not mean we can’t do house renovations, but does mean we should do it from a place of Gratitude. Which again reminds me how behavior is never the best judge of heart. Because the behavior and outcome can so often look the same even when the heart attitude may be so very different to someone else.

If I can afford to have a dirty shirt missing, and still be wearing clothes, then I really do have clothing

When I went through my wardrobe, it was so easy to see how little I had, how everyone else in the family had more. To feel undervalued as a result, feel like I did not have everything I needed. Yet, when I stepped back and put things into perspective, there was a dirty shirt on the floor that had been mislaid. If I can afford to have a dirty shirt missing, and still be wearing clothes, then I really do have clothing. I want more than a few outfits, but I don’t necessarily need more than a few. Then I was able to get a few more and now I have lots.

When we have what we need before we need it, sometimes we miss the opportunity to be grateful for it

So I think that not having is sometimes a good thing, because it really does help us to be thankful and focus on the times when things are provided for us even if we don’t believe it will happen. When we have what we need before we need it, sometimes we miss the opportunity to be grateful for it. While sometimes things come together at the very very last minute and a lot later than I really would have liked it to happen, it still happens. If we are focused on being grateful there is not a lot of room to focus on being worried and fearful.

I have everything I need

So despite the moments, when I feel like we are not going to make it through a tough time, I do believe I have everything I need, not just in terms of things but also skills. So no matter what the circumstance, I can be confident and remember what I do have and what has been provided for me. So this year, I am trying to remember I have everything I need.

A New Year

Yet again we welcome a new year, with new possibilities and plans. We look at what we have achieved, we think about what we want to achieve and in general do a lot of reflection. I know having a new year helps us let go of the old year and marks an ability to move on. Yet I am unsure why exactly we must do this every year and not every day.

If we treated every day like new years eve, we would constantly be assessing our direction and focus of energy. It also allows us to place things behind ourselves more easily, so that we can move on. How much lighter does the first few days of January feel compared to the last few days of December.

Maybe for us, this is a little bit easier as we are now painting the house, a physical reminder of refreshing. It is lovely to see the new colour going on, modernizing the place – but it does lead me to reflect on my motivation for updating the house colour and furniture. I could easily be grateful and content with what I have. However, the spaces have so much more potential to serve our family. I don’t want to update the place because I need to be on trend or to impress others. I want to update the house so each room invites me to rest and feel at ease. These are my internal motivators.

At new years eve, it is so normal to reflect on those motivators, the driving force for my doing. So this year I am hoping to keep remembering to reflect on those motivators. To make more space for intentional rest, especially with how easy it is to become busy. To continue to work on our home and house holistically – emotionally, physically and spiritually.

If I can keep coming back to  my place of rest, how much easier is it for me to come back to a place of reflection and focus? If I can just make small amounts of time to be still – I can make sure I am focusing on the right things, and not wasting time and energy on things that do not matter.

Yet, on the opposite end of the spectrum, I want to spend more time in community  with other people – getting to know them, sharing with them, being with them. Realistically, I am not sure how I could live without all the other people around and so hopefully this year we can focus on community as well.

It is not just us that needs to focus on living intentionally in 2015, we can also invite our children to live with intention. Hopefully we can all step forward this year as if every day is New Years Eve – and really focus on the things that matter!

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